Writer's Workshop: No Way, Will I be Like That!

Writer's Workshop over at Mama Kat's. Today's prompt: Describe how your relationship with your spouse is different than the relationship your parents had growing up.

Well, shoot! That's like the easiest prompt ever! Um let's see, um, we live together, um, we're married, um, we don't bad mouth each other to our kids (ok, well at least, I don't, who knows what kind of crazy convo's he's having when I'm not around.)  Yeah, my parents divorced when I was one, so there's the major difference. Read the whole Jerry Springer Version here.

Too easy? Well, let's look at her marriage to Dad #2.  First difference? I have never and would never pull a knife on Bear!  ♪Mary, Mary, why you buggin♪ (Run DMC) Nor would I run around behind his back with any man that would give me attention, and expect for my child to keep this "our little secret." Nope, un huh, ain't gonna happen! 

Mom and Dad # 2 never had a partnership, in fact most the time they didn't even seem to like each other. Mom wanted to go out and party and he wanted to just stay home and watch TV. Bear and I love to do things together, and while we do have some different interests, and certainly our own "me" time; we share our experiences. We are truly best friends. Of course, we argue, but there are no knives or other kitchen utensils, involved (although, I love to spoon, and fork him, te he.) 

Mom has since moved on to husband #3, and for awhile this seemed to be a really good thing for her. He was calming, and liked to travel, and they shared interests. But now, he's just a big whiney baby who throws temper tantrums when he doesn't get his own way! It's like she's raising a 5th kid! And he's making her miserable, but with no other man waiting in the wings, she's hesitant to leave. ♪Well, I think you're crazy, well, I think you're crazy♪ (Gnarls Barkley)

And, that, is the biggest difference of all in my marriage. Bear and I don't stay together because there is nothing else out there. I stay with Bear because I want to, because, he is my best friend, because he is the man I love, and because he makes me a better person. ♪You make me feel like a natural woman♪  (Aretha Franklin)


Dear Mom,
You can't change the mistakes you made in your past, but, you can make decisions that will change your future. Everyone deserves happiness, but it shouldn't come at another's expense. Do things for yourself, but be aware of their impact on others. Most importantly, before you can love and be loved, you must love yourself.

Best Wishes,
Amethyst

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